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Insights & Coaching for Progressive Parents
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Coaching for Parents
I offer convenient, telephone-based coaching for parents who desire more joy and ease in parenting and are committed to honoring the natural needs of their children...
Working with a parenting coach is all about realizing your vision for the kind of parent you want to be. It's not therapy, although profound inner healing is often a positive side-effect of the process.
Many parenting experts focus on managing children's "problem behaviors." While this approach can produce short term gains, it can have disastrous long-term consequences for both the children and the parents.
My approach is to help you cultivate a shift in consciousness that goes beyond reactive problem-solving. When you make this shift, you experience what I call unconditionality because it's the state of mind that inspires unconditional love, and it makes you immune to stressful conditions in your life.
I teach simple techniques that you can use to achieve unconditionality, and I show you specifically how to apply these techniques to your real-life parenting situations. Over time, you and your children establish new patterns or "habits" of relating that are joyful and satisfying for all.
Here's how some of my clients have described the benefits of coaching with me:
"The change is amazing... [My daughter] is now joyful and pleasant again. Her meanness is gone. So thank you!!! Really!!!"
Camila, mother of an 8-year-old girl
"At the beginning of our first telephone session I was a little nervous, but after a few minutes I felt a wonderful connection... In a typical session, I will tell Scott about situations from my daily life, and how I am feeling. Then we work together to find new approaches that are consistent with my vision of parenthood... It is a relief to have found Scott for coaching. It has enriched my family life even more than I had dreamed it would."
Elizabeth, mother of a 4-year-old boy
"Working with Scott allowed me to more deeply connect with myself and my needs. His collaboration in this parenting journey supported me to grow and inspired clarity."
Heather, mother of a 4-year-old girl
Washington State, US
"Standing before a difficult decision in my life, I contacted Scott. In just one single session Scott compassionately guided me to a place within myself where I could make a grounded, positive choice for me and my family. I am so glad I made the choice that day to talk to Scott, it benefited both me and my family in the long run."
A mother of a 2-year-old
"Scott has really helped me... I feel centered, connected to my children, and I feel a wonderful sense of freedom to be the strong, compassionate mama I want to be."
A mother of two boys (8 months and 4 years)
"Though I only had one session with Scott (so far, anyway), it got me on track for thinking about some things differently... It also led to some great conversations with my husband and other mamas that I hang out with. I especially liked being able to talk with someone that I didn't feel like was going to judge me for my unconventional parenting style — not having to think twice about the way I parent was such a relief."
Danna, mother of a 2-year-old boy
"My husband and I have been having weekly sessions with Scott for two months. It has helped us immensely in making our home life more harmonious. ... It was useful as a relationship tool as well (an unexpected bonus). We are now more in tune with our parenting, and we know each other better as people. We are more relaxed. We are less on our daughter's case all the time, and all our relationships have blossomed from this. We are also more playful!
Elin & Peter, parents of a 4-year-old girl
A: Personal/Life Coaching is gaining popularity as more and more people realize the benefits of the coaching relationship. You can hire a specialized coach to support you in just about any endeavor, from starting a business to changing your diet to improving your quality of life in general.
My coaching specialty is helping progressive parents create happier families without compromising their ideals of nonviolent, natural parenting.
There are many coaching formats: individual or group, in person or by telephone. I work primarily with individuals by telephone. I can work with one parent or both, and I can also coach groups of parents by teleconference or
Most of my clients opt to have weekly sessions. There's no minimum number of sessions, but two or three months is recommended. Many of my clients choose to continue for six to twelve months or more, because they enjoy the weekly boost and continually discover new ways they want to evolve and grow. My ongoing clients are encouraged to call or email me between sessions if something important and timely comes up. These brief "check-ins" are free.
If you feel satisfied with how your parenthood is unfolding but get stuck with a particular parenting situation, you might prefer to forego weekly sessions and schedule a single session only. I can then serve as an extra set of eyes and ears to offer you a fresh perspective and help you think outside the box. >> NEXT >>
A: Surprisingly, I learned the art of Life Coaching during my 15-year career as a voice teacher! Giving private lessons to adult singers, I eventually figured out that people could sing better if they felt better about their lives in general. So I combined the singing lessons with what essentially amounted to Life Coaching, and I called it "holistic voice lessons." At the time I didn't realize that the holistic aspect of my teaching already had a name: Coaching.
Then I became a parent, and my life took a radical turn. After reading books like The Continuum Concept and Magical Child, and watching mother nature's exquisite design unfolding in my own children, I became a passionate advocate of natural parenting, learning all I could about the subject. My coaching instincts found a new outlet through my participation in natural parenting support groups, both online and in real life.
After several years of this, I started getting calls from local friends asking for help with their parenting challenges. When these conversations led to major breakthroughs for my friends, they'd say, "Wow, Scott! You should do this professionally!" I didn't take that suggestion too seriously at first. But when I started getting emails from parents in other states and countries, asking me to coach them through difficult parenting situations, I decided to heed the call.
What I love most about parent coaching is being able to witness, and contribute to, the transformation of parents' lives and, by extension, their children's lives, too! >> NEXT >>
A: Naturally, I encourage my clients to be responsive and nurturing — even during a coaching call. My clients with babies or toddlers often have them in a sling and may nurse them, rock them, or take them outside for fresh air during the call. Some of my clients schedule sessions when their children are sleeping or happily engaged with someone else — husband, babysitter, etc.
Babies' and small children's needs aren't 100% predictable, and when they need you now, I will work with you to find a solution that works for everyone. Brief interruptions and occasional rescheduling of sessions are normal. As a matter of principle, I would never make a client forfeit a session for choosing to attend to her children's needs. >> NEXT >>
A: My fee for a private coaching session by telephone is $100/hour. Partial hours are rounded down to the nearest 15-minutes, so a session lasting one hour and ten minutes would be billed for just an hour. Most of my clients request full-hour or half-hour sessions, whichever works better for them and their families. Low-income and single-parent families may request a sliding scale. >> NEXT >>
A: Yes! I accept payments by check in the mail or by credit card online. Personal checks, money orders, and travelers' checks are also acceptable (in US dollars). I use PayPal to receive payments by credit card, debit card, or electronic check. PayPal is one of the easiest, most trusted and secure ways to make payments online. You can use the service even if you aren't a PayPal member, and there are no additional fees added. For my clients outside the United States, PayPal can also convert most currencies to US dollars automatically. >> NEXT >>
A: Simply call or email me to schedule your first coaching session. I may be able to find time for you the same day you call, if you like. Also, you are welcome to call me anytime to chat informally about coaching or parenting, free of charge, no appointment necessary. >> NEXT >>
A: My intention is to deliver significant value and make a real difference for you and your family. So I offer a straightforward guarantee of satisfaction: If you aren't completely satisfied with your coaching session, just let me know within 30 days and I'll refund 100% of the fee for the most recent session (plus 100% of unused prepaid fees, if any). >> NEXT >>
A: Monday – Friday, between 10:00am and 8:00pm (US/Pacific Time). Please call my office during these hours to set up a session time and ask any additional questions you may have about working with me.
Since I work with parents from all corners of the world, here's a "translation" of my schedule for several time zones:
If you'd like to know more about my coaching, availability, etc., you can reach me by telephone at (+1) 503-452-5599 (any day of the week, best hours are 10am-8pm/PT, 1pm-11pm/ET) or by email. I live and work in Portland, Oregon. To connect with me via Skype, please send me your Skype ID by email. My email address is...
I'll be happy to talk with you and discuss the benefits of having a personal coach to support your vision for a joyful, satisfying parenthood.
So go ahead and make the call — you have nothing to lose and so very much to gain!
I'd love to hear from you...